I am a mother to 3 amazing children! We have girl, boy & boy.
My girl is 5yrs old. Our middle is 4 & then the youngest just turned 1.
My 5yr old attended Pre-K twice & is a official Kindergartner this year. She has been a walk in the park. She’s never been in any trouble at school, she’s super smart! She’s a sweet little helper. She listens. Ok, pretty much she’s what you would label as “the perfect student” (in kindergarten)
So my 4yr old started PreK this year. He has had a different journey with school. The word we have heard the most is “defiant” I honestly didn’t know the definition or that this word even existed until my son was described as “defiant” Let me help you out if you are like me:
Challenging has definitely been our year so far. There have been many obstacles but, I know 100% in my heart & because of our faith God has a plan through this all & He has called Blain for SO many amazing things! We just gotta get PreK down LOL. We speak life over him everyday. I wish I could say I haven’t “lost it” a few times but, I have. It’s all SO different to me. I had it so easy with my first it has been hard for me to understand why the same isn’t happening with my second. I set him up for failure though by comparing him to his sister. He is not her & she is not him. & I think any mom of boys & girls would agree they are COMPLETELY different worlds. The intelligence Blain has for a 4yr old is out of this world! Even with his disruptions at school his learning has excelled & not even half way into the year he is already showing to have learned almost everything he should know at the end of the year. SO reason for this post…
All of this happening at school I can deal with. This past Sunday though we are getting ready to leave for church & Blain made a comment that he wouldn’t get in trouble at church. & I was like “you’re right about that, you better not EVER get in trouble at church” End of convo.
Sitting in the service right after worship a number starts flashing on the screen, we check our ticket… it’s our number. I look in my purse & see I had forgot to leave the diapers & wipes for Kanon so I “assume” Kanon must have a dirty diaper & they need his stuff. Grab the diaper & wipes & head out of chapel into the lobby & there sits my middle.
Long story short he had thrown a shoe at one of the leaders, kicked some other kids & was just not minding. Immediately that stupid word “defiant” comes to my mind & I rebuke it in the name of Jesus, I refuse to let that be a word that defines my baby. I did take him to the bathroom though & give him a stern talking to. He went apologized & was told he needed to do better. I’m praying he did, I wasn’t called back.
That was our Sunday. Today is Tuesday.
SO this afternoon my husband & I are walking through Target picking up wipes (which cost, $80… you ladies know what I’m talking about.. Target) As we are strolling about I get a call from the kids director, Molly, from our church. Molly was out sick on Sunday & she knows our middle well so, she had heard what had happened & wanted to call & check on us & Blain. Thankfully I was in the middle of Target or I would have had a complete “mommy meltdown” you know the ugly mom cry thing. Yep. Molly & I chatted & I had shared with her that my sweet middle is just trying to find where he fits into all of this. His sister gets tons of attention, being the only girl. Then there’s the baby, who is just that… a baby. So of course he’s constantly surrounded with attention so, to my middle any attention is just good right now… positive or negative.
Molly had suggested that my middle get some one on one time during our service with a new pal she had in mind. She had some guys in mind that she thought would do really well with our sweet boy. So this Sunday he is going to get some one on one attention & make a new friend.
I always thank God for our church & just from Miss Molly calling & meeting me where I am at right now as a mom & not just “writing us off” or labeling my son BUT truly saying, “I want church to be a place he feels safe & loved & welcomed” She wanted him to gain from church not strain from church. I cried after the call & makes me want to cry typing this. We all love our children & never want them to derail from what we know in our hearts they are called for. I’m so thankful for our church & the family & community we have within. I’m thankful Miss Molly stopped to say, “Let’s meet him where he’s at & find what works”
I think about how often Jesus does this. How we can be so “defiant” but Jesus still loves us, He still seeks us, He is the ultimate solution, He gives us attention… we just don’t “pay attention” to His attention, we usually seek the worlds before His. He meets us right where we are though.
I picked my sweet boy up from school today & told him that this Sunday he would have a new great friend at church ready to meet him & hangout with him & his face lit up! He has now asked all day if it is time for church & how much he can’t wait to meet his new friend…
New friend, I pray for you. I pray that you are ready to love on & keep up with one of the most precious babies of this world. He is so special, be ready! To be continued….